Welcome to Redfern Psychology

I am Dr Sheila Redfern PhD, consultant clinical child and adolescent psychologist and author of two books; 'Reflective Parenting' and 'How Do You Hug A Cactus?' . I have been practising for over 30 years with children, young people and parents and carers in the field of mental health. I am here to support your child or young person's well-being.

I previously worked in the NHS as a consultant in CAMHS services, supporting children, young people and their families with a wide range of mental health difficulties. I work within an evidence-based framework of assessment and intervention and have extensive experience of supporting the mental health needs of children and young people from a wide range of backgrounds and with different abilities.

I have managed CAMHS teams, including work with under 5s and adolescents. I have a specialist interest and expertise in the diagnosis and treatment of children and young people with autism and also in working with attachment difficulties. I support parents and carers in bringing about a closer connection between them and their child where they have difficulties in the attachment relationship. I am a specialist in working with fostering and adoptive families.

I have developed a model of mentalization based parenting, Reflective Parenting, which I deliver both as an intervention and train other professionals and teams to deliver. When I am not working in private practice, I am Head of Family Trauma at the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families, a children's mental health charity.

Helping people reach their full potential

As a clinical psychologist with extensive experience of treating the whole range of psychological difficulties in children and young people, I am committed to helping people to reach their full potential through an improvement in their emotional and behavioural wellbeing. Whilst I do this through my own direct work, I also believe strongly in the role of parents and carers in supporting their child's emotional and behavioural development as they are the main agents of change. My work therefore focuses both on the child or young person and on supporting the parent or carer to maintain their child's mental health.

What we do at Redfern Psychology

Redfern psychology provide both specialist psychological assessment and evidence-based treatments for a wide range of difficulties in children and adolescents (aged 0-18) and their parents and/or carers including:

Depression/Low mood

Family/relationship difficulties

Social anxiety

Panic attacks & panic disorder

Agoraphobia

Specific Phobias

Health Anxiety

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Post-Traumatic Stress

Peer relationship difficulties

Parent-infant attachment difficulties

Generalised anxiety

Examination/college or school stress

Low self-esteem

Parenting difficulties

Emerging personality disorder

Assessment of autistic spectrum disorder (ASD)

Cognitive assessments

Support to foster carers and adoptive parents

Unsure whether I can help you? Simply email or call and leave a message. I may get back to you quicker by email due to the high volume of calls I receive. I am highly experienced in the assessment and treatment of attachment disorders and in promoting reflective parenting. National Institute of Clinical Excellence (NICE) evidenced treatments are used including Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Mentalization Based Treatment (MBT) and Video Interaction Guidance (VIG).

New book for parents of teenagers out now!

My new book "How Do You Hug A Cactus?" is an invaluable tool for parents with teenagers and young adults. In it's first week, it reached No. 1 in books for parents and psychology books on adolescents on Amazon.

Reflective Parenting (book)

A Guide to Understanding What's Going on in Your Child's Mind - co-authored with Alistair Cooper, 2015


How to make a positive impact on your relationship with your child, starting from the development of the baby’s first relationship with you as parents, to how you can be more reflective in relationships with toddlers, children and young people.

Reflective Parenting

Reflective Parenting is a parenting intervention and model of parenting which I developed by applying theoretical ideas from mentalization, attachment theory and reflective functioning and which promotes positive outcomes for children’s emotional and behavioural wellbeing. It is offered only to parents, not children or young people. Although originally developed with primary age school children in mind, I have developed it has also been successfully applied to work with parents of pre-school children and adolescents and used with adoptive parents, Special Guardians and foster carers.


Training to Professionals

This training will introduce the Reflective Parenting model, innovated and delivered by Dr Sheila Redfern and a colleague. It will focus on the practical application of Reflective Parenting in both a group setting and in individual work with parents. Participants will be coached in using a range of mentalizing tools unique to the Reflective Parenting model, helping parents to connect with their children in positive and meaningful ways. Bespoke training can be tailored to the specific needs of the group and the population of infants, young children or young people they work with.

Treatment for Parents & Carers

The Reflective Parenting Group is an 8-week closed group (meaning people can’t drop in and out) for a maximum of 12 participants. The group provides both psychoeducation (there are slides and discussion points) and active support (sharing stories and struggles as well as successes with other parents). Reflective Parenting is also offered as an intervention to individuals.

Consultation and Supervision

I, Dr Sheila Redfern, provide consultation to teams and individual professionals working in the field of child mental health, education and social care. I am qualified to supervisor level in Reflective Parenting, Reflective Fostering consultation and in Mentalization Based Treatment for Adolescents (MBTA). Practitioners in these fields wishing to receive accredited supervision are welcome to get in touch.

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Frequently asked questions

What is the difference between a Clinical Psychologist and a Psychiatrist?

A Clinical Psychologist is like a therapist, so the work together involves talking and, for younger children, playing. Together we work on emotions and behavior, until they become much easier to manage. A psychiatrist is trained as a doctor and can prescribe medication. Sometimes they might also be therapists and they work with higher risk young people.

How many sessions will me and my child need?

It depends. After a first consultation/assessment, a treatment plan will be drawn up. Generally, I see people every fortnight for at least 6 sessions. After this we review. Some children, young people and parents need longer term work, and I am happy to offer this for as long as it is needed. I like to encourage children and young people to be able to manage their difficulties without my help in the long term as I like to encourage my clients to learn skills they can apply for the rest of their lives, without needing paid support.

What is the cost of treatment?

An initial consultation is charged at £175 for one and a half hour appointment. Subsequent appointments are charged at £125 for 50 minutes.


  • Individual therapy for adolescent or child: £125 for 50 minute appointment
  • Family work: £175-£200 per 50-minute appointment
  • Parenting or Carer support: £150 per 50-minute appointment
  • ASD assessment - £1500 (including all appointments, school liaison, diagnostic report and recommendations for treatment)
  • Reflective Parenting Groups: £150 per parent per group session over 8 sessions. Sessions are for 2 hours.
  • Consultation and Supervision - £150-£200 per hour
  • Bespoke Services - By arrangement

This is a competitive fee, given my experience as a consultant clinical psychologist for nearly 30 years, but I try to make my services available to a wide range of clients. Some people will be able to use health insurance to cover the cost of the appointments and adoptive parents can access the Adoption Support Fund, as I am a registered and recognised practitioner with the ASF.


Please note that there is a 48-hour cancellation policy for all sessions. I have a limited number of spaces available for lower fee paying clients.

What does an ASD assessment cost and involve?

An ASD assessment costs £1500. This involves a number of clinical appointments with the child/young person and separate appointments for the parent/carer. I use standardized measures; the ADOS (for the child/young person) and ADI for parents. I liaise with the school or college and write a diagnostic report with recommendations for support where a diagnosis is made.

What do the sessions with Dr Redfern involve and where do they take place?

The 50-minute sessions involve talking, playing and being curious about how things look and feel from the child or young person’s perspective, as well as from the parents. With my support, we start to work out, a bit like detectives together, where the difficulties are coming from and why they are causing distress. With younger children this can be done through play and drawing, alongside talking. We will set goals for treatment and regularly review these together.

The sessions take place either face to face in my garden office, which is well ventilated and allows for 2-meter distancing, or online using either Zoom or Teams. It is preferable to have some face to face contact if possible as this builds a stronger connection.

Get in touch

Please feel free to email me if you have any questions or to arrange an initial assessment appointment.

This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.

Alternatively, you can call me on 07774 222241 and leave a message. I may get back to you quicker by email due to the high volume of calls I receive. Due to the volume of enquiries I receive, I am unfortunately unable to offer a consultation on the phone prior to our first meeting (which may be in person or on-line).


All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure email services.


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